um.. why don't you call up the schools and just say youre the father? theres gotta be a way to get in contact with her thru the school. I mean you are her actual father

 

Because, if I was some whacked out, crazed child molestor and I knew a kids name, I could call up and get information on the kid, etc. They're not going to just hand out information because you say you're the father.

 

Her life > your feelings of regret



Ask the mother if it's okay, otherwise you probably shouldn't interfere in their lives at this point if you haven't been a part of it for the last 13+ years. Since you are posting this on a public message board and not contacting the mother directly, she probably already denied you contact with the underage daughter.

 

i have tried contacting the mother....no luck there either.

my 2 other daughters want to meet their sister

 

Wait until shes 18.

 

well generally i would do that but, she was diagnosed with lukemia when she was younger and for some reason i have a bad feeling that shes not doing very well

 

Geeze man... that's tough. I'd invest in one of those people finders and locate the mother. Then speak w/ the mother about planning a meeting w/ you two other daughters etc.

My GF's father was imprisoned when she was 4. Here "dad" really her step-father hasbeen her Dad for 21 years and to her, his is her only real dad.

Well her blood father got out of jail a few years back (before I ever knew her) and tried to contact her and become friends.

She basically said no thanks, I have a father, and don't wish to develop any kind of relationship with you.

So... maybe be prepared for the worst.

 

That shakey ground there. She may not even know that her adopted dad is not her real dad. I feel your pain bro. Good Luck

 

yeah i expecting the worst but i am hoping for the best.

 

Good luck man. Hope you the best.